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Chat about a loaded matter that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on since the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be loaded with troubles, cause misery, and other harms. Plus you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness issue, funds, age difference, religious background, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.

For the purpose of this article I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married woman.

Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are man seeking woman for affair. I think generally though it is only the human condition, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several reasons I have run across.

Biologically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us escape the real world for a short period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to turn the craving on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos humanity has erected against extra-marital affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but society as well. So why, what is the method?

Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your relatives or anybody else? You would need to minimize the danger you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.

No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest cluster, colossal really. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are comfy in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to think about. Your finances are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.

Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage uharmed.

Avoidance, sadly this is a regular groung I fear. One or the other, generally the guy is sexually neglecting his lady for a tones of reasons. As a male I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us males of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.

Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is vanished, maybe it is the closeness, could be neglect. Maybe we have just developed distantly, our ordinary concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposite of what you want. Maybe I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.

The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.

There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.